GAMMA groups in the U.S., Europe, and Australia are now meeting via Zoom every day of the week except Saturday

Choose a location whose meeting you are interested in joining.  If you choose a Meetup.com group that is “Private” you will need to first request to join that group.  Once an approved member of that group, you will be able to view their meeting “Details” (access information) and “Attendees.”

(Note: All groups except St Petersburg, FL are “Private” groups.)

Sundays:

       Washington, DC:   http://www.meetup.com/GAMMAsupport/

Mondays:

       Atlanta (daytime meeting):   https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-in-Atlanta/

Tuesdays:

       Saint Louis (on weeks other than those having a 2nd or 4th Thursday):

                 https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-in-St-Louis-MO/

       Washington, DC:   http://www.meetup.com/GAMMAsupport/

Wednesdays:

       Atlanta:   https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-in-Atlanta/

       Philadelphia:  https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-Gay-Married-Mens-Support-Group-in-Philadelphia-PA/

Thursdays:

     Saint Louis (2nd and 4th Thursdays):   https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-in-St-Louis-MO/

     Washington, DC:   http://www.meetup.com/GAMMAsupport/

Fridays:

     Europe (in English from Frankfurt, Germany; (6 hour difference from EDT)

         https://www.meetup.com/Gay-married-men-Europe/

Other GAMMA groups are also meeting via Zoom.   Check their URLs for the schedule:

       St Petersburg, FL:  https://www.meetup.com/GAMMA-in-St-Petersburg-FL/

       Sydney, Australia:   https://www.gamma.org.au/

Before GAMMA I felt very alone and I often struggled with depression and shame. I am married to a woman, but I am attracted to other men. My wife has been, and still is, my best friend.

I've worked so hard to fit in, to do the right thing and to be seen as straight. I strived to be the good son, good husband and good father but there was always something missing in my life.

I was desperately looking for a way to safely meet other men like me. All of my life I've lived as a straight man but have often wondered what it would be like to have a close personal relationship with another man. I was searching for a way to connect with other men that was not necessarily sexual but definitely intimate.

I wanted to have fun with men, go on hikes, bike rides or go on float trips. I wanted the real me to be accepted. I longed to be able to share my feelings with other men in a safe, non-threatening environment.

So, I timidly called GAMMA to find out more information and then it took me about three months to get up the courage to attend my first meeting.
From the start I felt very welcomed by the group. I have met some great guys at GAMMA that I can relate to. I've developed friendships and plan to continue to attend GAMMA meetings because I know they know what I'm going through.

Each man's journey is unique and no one there has pressured me in any way to come out. At this point, I may never decide to come out to my family or friends. I always say that I am completely out to my GAMMA friends. At the meeting, and during the fellowship afterward, I can truly be myself and begin the process of accepting me just as I am, in hopes that one day I may be comfortable sharing who I really am with the world.

In the mean time, let's just say, I look forward to GAMMA Thursdays!

Ben

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the purpose of GAMMA?

GAMMA -- supports gay men in heterosexual marriages at every stage of their sexual self-recognition.  No matter whether you are separated, divorced, bisexual, openly gay, or more typically, married and closeted, you are welcome at GAMMA.

I live in Illinois, may I attend GAMMA St. Louis meetings?

Absolutely,  GAMMA St. Louis services the Missouri - Illinois Bi-State Region and their surrounding areas. In addition to this website,

Where will I find GAMMA St. Louis on the Internet

In addition to this website, GAMMA has a presence on two other Internet platforms.  The first platform is our Meetup.com presence. Our second platform is our Groups.io presence.  After you apply and are approved for membership on either of these platforms, a member can post questions to other members and generally interact via the Internet.  Nevertheless, e-mail interaction via either Meetup.com or Groups.io will fully replace the benefits derived from attending our monthly meetings. 

I’m divorced now;  am I still welcome at GAMMA meetings?

GAMMA supports gay men no matter whether they are separated, divorced, bisexual, openly gay, or married and in-the-closet.

I’ve never been married, am I still welcome at GAMMA meetings?

Absolutely, you are welcome!  GAMMA meetings do not focus specifically on the married-gay theme.  We use videos a lot and then we talk about the relevant points of the video.  Our programs tend much more to helping men deal with being gay and shedding the self-loathing and shame that often comes with living in a society/family environment in which positive role models are few or non-existent.

I am concerned that what I may say at a GAMMA meeting will be gossiped around the community?

GAMMA provides a confidential environments wherein issues surrounding straight spouses, children, the workplace, health, male relationships, gay culture, and coming-out can be explored in an understanding, affirming atmosphere.

If I attend GAMMA meetings, will they replace my professional therapy sessions?

GAMMA is not a therapy group and thus does not replacement professionally lead therapy sessions.  However, many find that the wide variety of experiences shared in the group setting are as helpful as individual counselling.

Will GAMMA members press me to ‘come out?

GAMMA advocates no political or social agenda and is not a coming-out group, although many do so.  Each attendee is encouraged to find his own unique path.

What else can GAMMA do for me?

GAMMA networks the member into a potential new group of friends who can empathize with your experiences.

I am looking for a new boyfriend and ultimately a long-term partner.   

GAMMA is not a dating service.  However,  some members of GAMMA have developed strong bonds and know that they can depend on their GAMMA friends to help in times of turmoil or difficulty in their life.

GAMMA

St. Louis Missouri

Gay or Bisexual Men

Married,  Separated,  Divorced,

or

Questioning